I Statement Guide

Last time I talked about communication basics with dealing with the mentally ill. The could serve well with anyone also. The I-statement is the same way. If we would communicate with I-statements, there would be less arguments, less blaming, more REAL communication.
I-statements start out with stating how I feel.  I am making a very specific, [...]

Basic communication guidelines

Here are some basic communication guidelines when you are dealing with someone with a mental illness. Of course, they will work with anyone.
1. Use short, clear direct sentences. Long, involved explanations are difficult for people with mental illness to handle. They will tune you out.
2.  Keep the content of communications simple. Cover only one topic [...]

NAMI

This past weekend I spent over 20 hrs in training to become a facilitator for NAMI’s Family to Family classes. It was a grueling 20 hrs.
Yesterday when I got home, I was exhausted, my brain was fried. I made it though. I am now certified to teach the Family to Family classes. Now I will [...]

Inch by inch

“Inch by inch life’s a cinch, yard by yard, life is hard.” I don’t know where it came from. I was in fifth grade when I heard it the first time. I had a great math teacher. Every morning he would write a saying upon the board for us to copy in our notebooks. I [...]

simple’ology

I am posting extra today about simple’ology. I checked it out once. It is a good program about getting what you want. They have a program that you go through to train yourself to do things to improve your life.
I’m evaluating a multi-media course on blogging from the folks at Simpleology. For a while, they’re [...]

Relationships

I wanted to talk about relationships today. One of the problems that borderlines have are dealing with relationships. We tend to have unstable personal relationships. In fact, that is one of the indentifying characteristics of borderline.
I have had my problem with relationships in the past. I wouldn’t work at them. I kept everyone at a [...]

Finding balance…

As I was wondering what to write about today, I was thinking about yesterday. I got a lot done yesterday in some areas. I wrote a lot. I got some housework done. But I didn’t get some other things done that I needed to get done.
So what did I do when I went to bed? [...]

Three Steps to Better Self-Esteem

You can change your self esteem. Why would you want to? There are consequences to low self-esteem. They are:
anxiety, stress, loneliness and increased likelihood of depression
problems with friendships and relationships
it can even impair job performance. If you think poorly of yourself, you will not do your best at work.
Poor self-esteem can lead to drug and [...]

Improving the self image

Having a negative self image is something a lot of people suffer from. I have that problem too. Actually, my self image has improved a lot lately. It has been a slow gradual practice.
I want to share with you what I did to improve my self image. Maybe it can help you, too.
With the help [...]

Ways to overcome stress – pt 2

Here I am with part 2 with ways to overcoming stress.
14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut) This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.
15. Do something for the kid in you everyday.
16. Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line. (If reading a Bible is not your thing, maybe [...]